10 questions to make the right decisions
Many people get lost and go into a stupor when they have to make a big decision. We often spend a lot of time analyzing and sometimes even prefer not to make a choice at all if we are not sure about it.
This situation is common in all aspects of our lives, and is especially evident when many people are affected or when the decision will directly affect our future.
This decision brings certain fears: uncertainty, failure, regret.
The good news is that our lives are full of different decisions. Big and important, or small and everyday. We make decisions with our head or our heart, analyzing or diving into the abyss of the unknown.
The best way to make decisions is to listen to the most important person in your life: yourself. We are always making decisions, every second, so we don't have to paralyze ourselves for fear of making a mistake.
There are a dozen questions, the answers to which will help you understand your own motives and help you come to better conclusions. It will also help you in the future. You can always analyze your decisions and fit them into a single model for analysis.
1. How long do you think about a decision?
Sometimes we have to analyze too much, think too much and get hung up on an issue that may not end up being that important. One way to filter and soothe our own stress is to evaluate the time we spend on a problem.
2. Your feelings when you think about the topic
Torment and fear? Anxiety or disbelief? Don't forget that our decisions are influenced by emotions, and physiological feelings. Detecting all of these factors in a timely manner will help you realize in which direction you should go.
3. how much will this decision affect your life in the next five years?
Try to think about where you might be in five years? What will you be doing, what will be your source of income, what company do you plan to work for, and who do you plan to interact with? How might this decision help or hinder your plans? If it could seriously affect your future, don't be dismissive, but think about every detail. But the opposite may also be true. If the decision does not touch your plans in any way, then perhaps it is not worth spending a lot of time and nerves on it?
4. Can you overcome change?
Often we see the outcome of our decision only after some time. If an instantly made decision can't change something immediately, sooner or later you will feel something new in your life. Will you be able to cope with the change, and is it worth it?
5. Other options?
When you get hung up on several options, all your thoughts hover only around the same decisions. You become blind to anything new and out of the box. If you try to write down each of your options, you'll have more options to choose from.
When you find more options, you can weigh the pros and cons of each. Discard the most unsuccessful ones and choose between the best ones.
6. What happens if you ignore the decision or make a mistake?
This question will make you weigh the possibility of not making a decision, it will make you face your fears. Sometimes it doesn't turn out to be that serious, and the worst-case scenario becomes extremely unlikely.
Learn to work with your stress, because it forces you to always be on your guard.
7. Is this a good time?
To answer this question, focus on the present tense. Look around and give an assessment of your life at this point.
If you can tell that now is the right time to make a decision and you shouldn't procrastinate, you won't regret it in the future. Try to answer honestly. The decision may be hard and you may want to take your time, but we can't always wait for the perfect moment.
The best time to make a decision may not come. The first step often has to be taken under unfavorable circumstances and we may not always be prepared for the consequences.
8. When, if not now?
Try to give as detailed an answer to this question as possible. Give yourself a specific date when you have the least stress, responsibility, and problems. The future can be vague and then you can constantly postpone making an important decision.
Create a condition for yourself, such as "I will solve the problem when I have $500 in my account."
9. Can your past experiences help?
Try to remember everything that happened to you in the past. You may be able to recognize something in your current situation that you have already successfully dealt with before. Think about how you felt after you solved a past problem of a similar nature. You may be able to adjust your decision and deal with the situation even better.
10. How will I feel after making the decision?
This is by far the most important answer. Your health, well-being, and happiness are the most important things you should think about when making a decision.
Remember that the decision will not always be either unambiguously good or unambiguously bad. Sometimes you have to compromise to find the right answer.
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